Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. When we’re stuck in a constant cycle of fear and negativity, it can be difficult to cultivate a positive mindset.
As leaders in Global Happiness Institutewe’re constantly thinking about the small, intentional things we can all do to make our communities more positive, content, and resilient.
Often, it starts with the way we talk to others and to ourselves. If you use any of these six phrases every day, you are truly happier than most people:
Rephrasing “I should…” to “I should…” is a powerful way to tap into a gratitude mindset.
do not miss: An 85-year Harvard University study found the number one thing that makes us happy in life: It helps us “live longer.”
It was not Owns To see someone about your back pain, for example. You Gets to. This is the benefit of living with the most advanced medicine in human history.
And you don’t have it To check on the screaming toddler who you thought was asleep – you can do this. You’ll miss midnight cuddles in a few years, so an extra cuddle tonight might be good for both of you.
Studies have shown this Gratitude It can make us happier and physically healthier. A great way to incorporate thanksgiving into your life is the “Rose, Thorn, Bud” game.
A rose is anything special, a small win, or a little joy from the day. “I finally found the keys to the shed,” “The principal emailed me a thank you,” “I got help coaching hockey.” A fork is something that hurts or does not go well. And finally, a bud, or something to look forward to.
It may be awkward at first, but we’ve found it becomes a force for positivity and connection.
When someone starts opening up, many of us tend to want to solve their problems or give them advice.
Instead, simply saying “Tell me more,” while taking the time and energy to listen, allows them to continue processing their feelings and thoughts, while also deepening your relationship and bringing you closer.
We try to add this little phrase to any sentence that begins with “I can’t,” “I can’t,” or “I don’t.” Even if said mentally, the word helps open the door that our brain is trying to close. It offers the possibility that you could Sometime in the future: “I’m not qualified for this job… Until now“.
It’s a good idea to share with children to teach them how to turn setbacks into learning opportunities: “I’m not a good swimmer…yet,” or “I don’t like onions…yet.”
It’s easy to focus on the anxiety of the moment and feel like there’s no way out.
Many of us have anxiety attacks, even about small things like being 10 minutes late to a meeting, forgetting to pay a bill and getting some attention, or not getting a response to a friend’s text.
When you start to feel that stress, ask yourself: “Will this matter a year from now?” If the answer is no, try pulling that future calm into the present moment.
Do you have 17 text messages, 243 unread emails, and three calendar notifications to grab your attention?
Distraction and fatigue when making decisions are often a barrier to happiness. So limit your options. Instead of jumping from one thing to another, take a minute and write down one thing you’ll focus on, either at the beginning or the end of tomorrow.
Achieving this small goal is an achievable step you can take toward true happiness.
Neil Pasricha She is a leading authority on intentional living. He is the New York Times bestselling author of ten books and magazines, including “Happiness equation” And “Two minutes in the morning“He hosts an award-winning podcast 3 booksand gave keynote speeches at TED Talks And SXSW. Follow him on Twitter @NeilPasricha.
Leslie Richardson He is the leader of the community. She is a mother of four, an inner-city elementary special education teacher, and runs community listening groups for mothers and teens. She has degrees in psychology and education and is a certified parenting coach. Learn more through Leslierichardson.ca.
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